Long ago, I heard the following story. A manager asks a scientist, mathematician and labor relations specialist/lawyer or union official (pick one) what is 2 +2. The scientist goes through many scientific equations and theories and comes up with 4. The mathematician does the same. The labor folks look the manager in the eye, close the door to the office and asks, “What do you want it to be?”
That story resonates when you think about labor law v. labor relations. Many of us know the law, and we can read the cases. But who determines the law? Arbitrators, judges, administrative agencies. Even if they are deciding “precedent” setting cases, should that decide what our relationship should be. So, let’s ask the critical question, who determines our work relationships?
Several weeks ago, we did some training for an agency and union officials that included communication/problem-solving training. After the session, a manager told us that he recently asked his employees & managers what prevented them from doing their job and the #1 response was the inability to work with others, lack of communication and trust. In other words, the RELATIONSHIP, not the law.
So, again not diminishing the importance of knowing what our rights are or having the technical skills & equipment to do our jobs, the key component to doing our jobs effectively is our ability to work with others and develop those relationships. It’s those pesky soft-skills that have too many rolling their eyes when they hear that term. Another question; if these are soft skills, why are they so hard to learn and implement? We can answer that question for another time.
However, back to the question of who determines our relationship. The simple answer is easy, we do. The more difficult question is what kind of relationship do we want? We can choose to have third-parties make decisions for us. Pretty easy. Or we can make the effort and develop a relationship that benefits everyone involved. Pretty hard, yet not impossible.
At I & I Resolutions, we will work with you to develop that relationship by providing the skills that will allow you to do your jobs. Our slogan, “We care because you matter”, is not just words. It’s a philosophy that we believe in, and work towards.
Until the next time from the table of Thomas & Andy, Happy Memorial Day.
After years of distrust and broken agreements, the United States and the former Soviet Union USSR, that was the SALT I and SALT II nuclear weapons treaties were accomplished utilizing Interest Based Negotiations Principles! I thought, my God, no one hates, distrusts each other as these two parties! If it can work for them.
Make no mistake, doing this ain’t easy! But it DOES NOT require Love, just understanding an active listening and learning what the true interest and surrounding issues are for the conflicted other party!
You don’t have to agree. You don’t have to Love. But you should, as I have, when applying the principles, learn what the REAL ISSUES AND INTERESTS are!
So before being dismissive, ask yourself; is the conflict and parties involved really more complicated than the US/Soviet relationship? Because again, it worked successfully for them and it can work to at least identify the real and sometimes, underlying issues. That after all is the only way to resolve conflict and create lasting solutions.
See you next time! Thomas and Andy
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